Trauma is passed down through generations, and so is healing.

Never forget that. What you do today, positive or negative, will have a ripple effect on all around us and on the generations that follow after us. Children do not do what they are told, they do what they see. It is in our hands to heal our lives so that what was unhealed in our family history does not pass on to those who come after us. Our healing becomes our children’s inheritance.

There are many many roads to take on our personal journey. What suits one may not suit another. What we need therapeutically at one stage in our lives we may not at another. No one particular therapy, therapist, support, modality, technique, belief, faith etc, is a panacea for all ails. Healing involves just one common denominator. We wake up one day and make a decision that we want to live our lives in a more effective way than how we’ve been living it, and we realise we need some support with that.

That’s the start. The support has been there all along. We’re not waiting anymore for someone to give it to us, we get up and make sure we find it. Just making that decision to seek support will line you up with the therapy/support that is right for you right now. Support didn’t find you – you found support! How will you know if you’ve found the right therapist/support system for you to work within? You’ll be finding the answers you’re seeking, and you’ll want to go back for more. Simple as that.

We all grow and the time will come when our needs change. We’ll move in and out of what we need that supports us. If the therapy you’ve chosen has reached its end, or you have other areas in your life that you wish to explore, the therapist will realize where her/his skills are limited, and will support you in moving in whatever direction that serves you in meeting your needs. This is good therapy/support.

Healing involves us healing our life in a way where we’ve established healthy boundaries that allow us to take care of our physical, sexual, spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being. We pass this message out to all around us. We’re showing the world our worth and what we’ll accept. Children don’t do what they’re told, they do as they see.

They’re watching. Just as we did.

With love,

Norah Finn – Family Therapist.